Grief & Loss

No one is still feeling it like you are.

Everyone else has gone back to work and is in their normal groove. But to you, it still feels like it was yesterday. There is no normal to go back to.

The day drags on. Someone went to the grocery. It must have been you, but the details are a blur. Long stretches of numbness collapse time, and hours pass like minutes.

During the erratic moments of presence, you become flooded with anger, guilt, and bottomless sorrow. Almost anything else would be better than this.

Every attempt to snap yourself out of it has failed. You’ve told yourself that you shouldn’t still feel so sad, that you shouldn’t still be thinking about it every day. Why is this happening? It’s become unbearable, and you’re losing hope that you will ever feel different than this.

It’s time to make a difficult decision.

There are two options. You can continue to suffer silently, trying to manage the unbearable amount of feeling locked inside. But to deny grief is to cut yourself off from the potential of ever being fully alive again.

Alternatively, you can consider grief not an obstacle to overcome but an additional part of who you are now. Developing a lifelong relationship with this new part will take time.

Grief is the love you felt, now transformed by the loss. It will soften and change with time but never disappear entirely.

Therapy can help you live with this new part.

You have already stepped onto new ground and are unsure if it will hold you. The supportive framework that therapy provides helps to give grief a bottom, a place to rest its total weight and be supported.

Everyone processes grief differently, and there is no set timeframe for learning to live with the loss.

Love is necessary for healing in the wake of loss, and it can begin with the love you show yourself. We will work together to help you process how you feel as you move toward acceptance of your loss.

I want to work with you to help you reach that point. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to determine if this might fit you well.